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PROMOTING LASTING FRIENDSHIPS FOR YOUR CHILD


A close, positive friendship is an important influential factor.

It isn’t easy making a best friend these days. A number of obstacles can get in the way as kids try to make strong friendship bonds- aka, a best friend.


For most gone are the days of running around the streets and over the fields with your best buddies until dinnertime. There is too much homework and too many electronic alternatives. The changing dynamics of the modern family.

Although the majority of kids tend to meet their best friend at school, school dynamics and cultures are changing. Towards Junior and high school, cliques are typically broken up to prevent or combat bullying and classrooms are often shuffled for size and ability. Lunch time is shorter, as is the time between classes.

Many kids have their afternoons packed with programmed activities. Although some extracurricular activities allow kids to find companions with common interests, he says that daily after school programming cannot replace the benefits of spending one-on-one time with a best friend.

Social networking, online gaming and texting can help maintain close friendships when close friends are apart, but overall, typical online friendships create mostly superficial friendships.


Having a good friend affects a child’s school performance, too. Children tend to have better attitudes about school and learning when they have their good friends there.

Teachers notice the subtle impact of friendships — good students tend to hang out with good students. Grades matter, projects and assignments are always done and achievement is a common thread. The carefree students hang out with other carefree students. Being cool and popular is most important. In this group, doing well in school can even be ridiculed.

The friends they choose may determine the academic path they take in the years to come.


Children are not born with social skills. Parents need to help prepare them to interact successfully with peers. A parent’s love, acceptance and respect for their child help him/her develop the basic trust and self-confidence necessary to go out and develop bonds with others.

Parents are role models who, by their own behaviour, can teach children how to meet people and talk to them, to cooperate with others and to ask for favours. Parents can teach how to win or lose well, to apologize and accept apologies and how to be patient, respectful, and considerate. Parents can help their child learn how to be the type of person others like to be around.


Some things you can do to promote long lasting friendships for your child